The “Power”
We are taught as little girls that we should look forward to the day when we get married. This infamous day will make you a princess, it will give you anything you have desired your entire life, you will have hundredths look at you and admire your very presence. The reality is that a wedding is not about you. It is about you and your partner. It is the first time that you and your partner will have to compromise, plan something big together, and hopefully come out triumphant.
We are given a “power” when we are born as women, to choose everything that has to do with decorations, colors, linens, dresses and so on. This “power” is given to women alone, and if you don’t have the “power” you are just this weirdo tom-boy girl, or a lesbian. Same thing goes with the boy, if the are born with this “power” then they are just gay. Where does this come from. I can tell you that I do not know anything about decorations, dresses, flowers, and all that stuff, hell I barely know how to walk in heals, and I am a full 22 year old grown woman.
It is when you realize that it is not your wedding, but our wedding that you will realize just how important this party is. You and your future husband will have the final say in anything that goes on in the wedding. He should be your go to person, not your mom or your sister, they can have and have had their own weddings, let this be about you and him.
This wedding is the first major compromise, you don’t have a “power,” and this is not your wedding. Let all that go, talk to your partner, listen to one another, after all this are the things that you will have to be doing for the rest of your life.
More to come
